The fear over the rising antisemitism throughout the world has only intensified with the results of the latest elections and the many candidates who espouse enmity towards Jews and Israel, voted into significant positions of power.
In last week's portion we read the reassuring and timely promise G-d made to Avraham, following the loyalty he exhibited at the Akeidah, that 'Your offspring shall inherit שער איביו — the gate of its enemy.' (בראשית כב יז)
This week as well, this promise to the seed of Avraham is echoed in Lavan's blessing to his sister Rivkah as she heads towards her destiny as the wife of Yitzchok and matriarch of our nation, when he and his family collectively utter, "Our sister, may you come to be thousands of myriads, and may your offspring inherit שער שנאיו — the gate of its foes." (שם כד ט)
So, it looks like we have nothing to worry about.
It's not that simple. We are assured of surviving as a nation and overcoming our enemies, but we must be worthy of it.
This prayer of Lavan that we bestow on every bride, the Chasam Sofer teaches, was not intended by Lavan as a blessing that Yaakov — the future son of Rivkah — should defeat his archenemy Esav, but on the contrary as a curse upon Yaakov, that Esav should inherit the gate of his enemy — Yaakov!
When we recite this blessing, we seek to negate his intention by praying for the defeat of our enemies who seek our destruction.
It seems that this blessing and its hoped for realization pivots on the greatness of Rivkah and her qualities that we emulate, will make us worthy of overcoming our antagonists.
Why is this unique to Rivkah that it is only in relation to her that this blessing was promulgated and that accents the earlier promise to Avraham, more than the other matriarchs?
The חסד — kindness Rivkah extended to Eliezer and his camels is exemplary and the criteria — as delineated by Eliezer, to make her deserve to become the appropriate wife for Yitzchok.
Throughout this episode there are other kindnesses mentioned other than Rivkah's.
Eliezer after observing the remarkable Divine Providence in quickly discovering Rivkah, expresses his appreciation to G-d "Who has not withheld חסדו ואמתו — kindness and truth from my master."(שם שם כז)
Near the conclusion of his mission, Eliezer seeks the consent of Rivkah's mother and brother to permit Rivkah to leave to marry Yitzchok, he appeals to them saying, "And now, if you intend to do חסד ואמת — kindness and truth with my master, tell me; and if not, tell me, and I will turn to the right or to the left." (שם שם מט)
What is this added notion of kindness combined with truth?
The Ramban writes: And that which is correct in my eyes is that lasting kindnesses are called אמת — truth, since it is from the root, אמנה — like the meaning of, "Your house and your kingship shall ever be נאמנה — steadfast before you" ש"ב ז טז))
There are acts of kindness that relate to a specific need at that moment but do not represent eternity. The acts of kindness that are truthful are the acts one does whose impact will sustain forever.
The kindness granted to Avraham — the proffering of Rivkah as the worthy mate for Yitzchok was a kindness that will last for eternity. The values she inculcated to the 'body' of the Jewish people when giving birth to Yaakov, the exemplar of אמת — steadfastness, is an eternal component of the fiber of our souls.
The appeal to Besuel and Lavan, was not merely a request to kindly release Rivkah so she may marry Yitzchok, but rather to do it with an awareness that in partnering with Avraham they can be associated for eternity with this kindness.
In Tanna D'Bei Eliyahu it is written that it was in the merit of the Matriarchs that we were redeemed from Egypt. (אליהו רבא כז)
The merit of Rivkah is noted in the verse that reports how 'They [Lavan and his mother] called Rivkah and said to her, "Will you go with this man?" And she said, אלך — "I will go!"
It does not recall her extraordinary acts of kindness, only emphasizing her courageous and determined response. "I will go!"
Rivkah's pithy response says it all. It is not about kindness per se, but more about her awareness that these acts of kindness she displayed were a critical component in the journey to eternity. When one's eyes are set on that אמת — reality, the steadfastness and determination comes naturally.
Both Rav Hirsch and the Netziv understand this inheriting the 'gates' of our enemies as referring to our capturing their hearts and minds through the morals we live by and represent.
"I will go!", was her attitude. Kindness is not conditional, nor occasional; it is the commitment to be there for others to my fullest, for in those acts lay the foundation of our greatness that will inherit the gates of our foes.
חסד ואמת — Kindness and truth אל יעזבוך — shall not leave you; bind them upon your neck, inscribe them upon the tablet of your heart; ומצא חן — and find favor, ושכל טוב — and good understanding in the sight of G-d and man.(משלי ג ג,ד)
This verse can be understood in two ways.
One who is bound up in the drive to do acts of kindness, with a steadfast focus on its link with eternity, which will never be forsaken, will merit a gift from G-d of favor that will capture the attention of G-d and man.
The Ralbag interprets the verse, Kindness and truth אל יעזבוך — shall not leave you, as addressing G-d's 'kindness and steadfast truth' towards those who wear this trait in binding His will as an ornament on their necks and etched in their hearts, who will be assured that אל יעזבוך — [G-d] shall never leave you.
The antidote to the hatred of our enemies is to hone our levels of 'steadfast kindness' towards one another.
The Baal HaTanya was once asked which is greater the love for G-d or the love for our fellow Jew, upon which he responded, they are two sides of the same coin, we must love those whom He loves!
Mori Saadia ben Yosef Tzefira a prominent Yemeni Jewish scholar, scribe, and commentator from the village of Tan'am in central Yemen, writes in his sefer Kesef Tzaruf, that the word Rivkah uttered, אלך — I will go! is an acronym for לי כולם אוהבים — to me they are all beloved!
The late Vishnitzer Rebbe, the Imrei Chaim, taught that the letters in this response, א-ל-ך are the same first letters in the sentiment, לא אמות — I shall not die! — כי אחיה but I shall live.
It is the key to eternity!
באהבה,
צבי יהודה טייכמאן